Never
judge by appearances.
Written by Rebecca Holsapple
The sun was shining in through the window blinds as she
opened her eyes, Gabrielle could feel that it was a perfect fall morning. She
hopped out of bed and opened the window, she felt the crisp breeze on her face and
took a deep breath. This was her favorite time of the year and she was so
excited because this morning was her first time at a new church. She was always
the optimistic, she enjoyed new adventures and she was looking forward to
making some new friends.
Gabrielle brushed her long blond hair and braided it to the side
and put a teal flower head band on. She looked at her reflection in the mirror;
her beautiful blue eyes were shining with anticipation.
She ran down the stairs, her mom and dad were sitting at the
table and so was her little 4 year old brother Taylor.
“Your plate is ready honey. Pray and eat quickly, we need to
head out in no more than 10 minutes if you want to make it in time for Sunday
school.” Said mom.
“Here I’ll clear the table while you go do your hair” said
dad. He gave mom a quick kiss as she left the room and started cleaning things
up.
“So are you excited? By the flush on your cheeks, I would
say you are” dad looked at Gabrielle affectionately.
“Oh yes! I just cannot wait to make new friends!!!” “I
wonder how many girls my age go to our new church; I hope there are a lot!”
Gabrielle was easily animated.
“Well, even if there aren’t I’m sure you’ll make a least one
or two new friends.” “Hurry and finish eating, it’s almost time…” dad said.
The family got in the car just five minutes later then they
had planned and they made their way to church in a lot of chatter. Unlike
Gabrielle, Taylor was a bit anxious, so she made it her mission to comfort him
and be sure he would be happy to go.
She took his hand and dropped him off at the door of the 4-5
year old class and by then he seemed quite a bit more relaxed, she arrived in
front of the 10-11 year old class and was greeted by a beautiful lady.
“Hi, you must be Gabrielle. My name is Sister Patience. We are so glad to have
you.”
Gabrielle flashed her brightest and biggest smile
accompanied by a great big hug. “Thank
you so much Sister Patience, I am thrilled to be here, I am looking forward to
learning new things and making new friends.”
As she was working on her crossword puzzle, Gabrielle looked
up every time a new student walked in. She was eager to make friends, but there
was one thing Gabrielle struggled with, she had the bad habit of judging people
by the way they looked. She liked to be friends with pretty people, people with
a good sense of style. So as students
walked in, she decided in her mind whether they would become friends or not.
The monologue in her head went a bit like this:
“Oh she is pretty, I love her hair, and I would totally wear
that outfit. I’m sure we’ll get along perfectly.
Her, on the other hand, what is the embroidered top? It
looks like something my great aunt would wear. I can’t imagine we would get
along. Her hair doesn’t look very pretty either; did she not have time to brush
it this morning?
This boy is wearing jeans on Sunday morning! I can’t believe
it. I bet he is not very clever; we most likely won’t get along.
This other one on the other hand, what a nice outfit and I
really like the way his hair looks, I’m sure we’ll be friends.”
She stopped herself short. What was she doing? This wasn't right.
She could feel her forever scarf around her neck and it made
her remember a conversation she had with her grandmother just the month before...
They had gone apple picking. A neighbor had a few trees
drooping with apples, but they had not treated them. Grandma had asked to take
some and had told Gabrielle they would cut around any parts that the bugs may
have bit into. They had such a great time; spending time with grandma was one
of her favorite things.
Once they had picked several bushels, they took them
back to grandma’s house and started slicing, coring and peeling. It was a lot
of work but they talked as they worked.
“So, we have new neighbors. It’s really too bad we are
moving, they are the most attractive bunch. Always dressed so nicely and their
hair all done so beautifully. I would love to become their friends.” Gabrielle
always felt free to talk about anything with grandma.
“Is that right?!” “Are they Christians?” grandma asked.
“Oh I don’t know, I can’t really tell, but as beautiful as
they all are, I can’t imagine they wouldn't be.”
Grandma smiled.
“So how is your friend Danny doing? You haven’t talked about
her in a while”
“Well, Danny is making some strange wardrobe choices lately,
I really don’t care to be seen with her. I tried to convince her that purple
and yellow don’t go together but she just won’t listen to reason.”
“Oh!” Grandma was looking a bit concerned.
“She still is the sweetest person I know, but really…
dressing like that… it’s just not right. It might reflect badly on me.” Gabrielle thought back on her words with
regret.
Grandma looked at her with sad eyes. She took 2 apples in
her hands and showed them to Gabrielle.
“Which apple looks more delicious? Which one would you pick
to eat?”
Gabrielle looked at them, the answer was easy. One of them
was bumpy with a few rough patches, and the other was beautifully shaped and a
beautiful shade of red. She pointed to the latter.
As grandma cut, she started with the bumpy one. The inside
was all white and nice, a perfectly yummy apple. But when she cut the perfect
apple the middle was black and rotten. Gabrielle was really surprised!
“These apples are like people, Gabrielle. Beauty on the
outside doesn't equal beauty on the inside. What do you think God cares about
most? Whether someone is always dressed nicely or whether they have a caring
heart?”
“Um… “Gabrielle knew the right answer, but it was so hard to
admit that she had been having the wrong attitude.
Grandma continued “In the Bible in the book of Samuel, we
are told that even though Saul was tall and good looking, he had turned from
God, his heart had grown hard. So God told his prophet not to look at the outward
appearance, that he had chosen a new king for Israel. He sent him to the house
of Jesse, because one of his sons was to be king. Imagine his surprise when the
smallest of them all was chosen.”
Grandma washed her hands and walked to the dining room table;
she picked up her worn Bible and turned to a passage.
“It says in Samuel
16:7: “But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his
appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward
appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
"Do you think we should look at outward appearance or be more
like God, and look at a person’s heart?”
Gabrielle eyes filled with tears. She knew her attitude had
been all wrong, she also knew she really needed to ask God as well as Danny for
their forgiveness.
“Oh grandma, I feel terrible! I’ve been acting so badly. Danny
is my best friend and she has a heart of gold. I should have never let what she
wears bother me so much. How shallow of me!”
Grandma gave her a big hug. “We all have areas in which we
struggle in life, the important thing is to realize that we have sinned and ask
God for forgiveness. This won’t be the last time you have thoughts like that. Just
remember this conversation and ask God to help you not to judge people that
way. He will always be there when you need Him.”
Gabrielle was brought back to present tense by Sister
Patience asking if everyone had finished they puzzles. She looked at her paper,
then around her at all the children in the class. She looked at them with fresh
eyes. She prayed quietly: “Lord, thank you so much for reminding me of my
conversation with grandma. Please help me to never judge, but to only look at
the heart. “
The class was wonderful and she got to know all the kids and
she knew she would get to be friends with all of them, no matter what they
looked like. She knew it was the right attitude and that God and grandma would
be proud of her.